Which of the following examples of sexting would be most likely to lead to police action?

Helping your child with difficult sexting situations

If you and your child have open and honest conversations about sexting, your child is more likely to feel they can talk to you if they:

• get an image that bothers them
• are worried about an image they’ve sent.

You can help your child feel comfortable about talking to you if you tell your child you won’t be angry if they’re in a difficult situation because of sending a nude.

Your child gets a sext: what to do

If your child gets an unwanted sexually explicit image or message, talk through how to respond:

• If the sender is your child’s friend, ask your child to delete the message and tell the friend not to send any more messages like that. Encourage your child to practise saying no in ways that feel comfortable.
• Tell your child not to forward the message.
• If your child doesn’t know the sender, ask your child not to respond and to block the sender.
• Contact your child’s school if your child is getting sexts from someone they don’t know and you think the person is connected to the school.
• Ask your child to tell you or another trusted adult if they keep getting unwanted images.

If you think it’s a criminal matter, especially if an adult is contacting your child, you can report it to the eSafety commissioner or police. For example, it’s a crime if someone sends your child an unwanted naked picture. If this is the case, ask your child not to delete the messages because the police will need to see them.

Your child sends a sext: what to do

If your child has sent a sexually explicit image or message that they regret, it’s important to support your child and reassure them that together you’ll deal with it:

• Ask your child about the context of the message: did your child feel pressured to send the sext, or was it consensual to start with?
• Check on the content of the sext and who your child sent it to.
• Advise your child to delete the sext from the phone, computer or wherever it’s stored.
• Encourage your child to ask the person who received it to delete it.
• If your child uploaded a sexual image to social media, encourage your child to delete the image. Show your child how to delete the image or contact the app to get the image deleted.
• If you’re worried about a sexual image your child has sent, consider legal advice. A lawyer can help you with getting images removed or deleted. You might be able to get free legal assistance.

If you think it’s a criminal matter, you can report it to the eSafety Commissioner or police. For example, it’s a crime if an adult has asked your child to send a sexually explicit image.

Your child’s sext gets shared: what to do

It’s important to stay calm if a sexual image of your child has been shared. Images that are shared among peers are rarely uploaded to public websites or apps.

Your child needs your support and reassurance that together you’ll deal with it:

• Reassure your child that it’s not their fault that the image was shared.
• Ask your child about the content of the sext and find out who it has been sent to.
• Ask your child’s school for help identifying people who might have the image and places where it might be posted. Help your child ask these and other people to delete the image.
• If the image has been uploaded to social media or websites, help your child find out where it is and contact the apps or websites to ask for it to be removed. The eSafety Commissioner can help with this.
• Encourage your child to block anyone who makes offensive comments or asks for unwanted images. Show your child how to block unwanted senders.
• If you’re worried about a sexual image of your child that has been shared, consider legal advice. A lawyer can help you with getting images removed or deleted. You might be able to get free legal assistance.

If you think it’s a criminal matter, you can report it to the eSafety Commissioner or police. For example, it’s a crime if someone shares – or threatens to share – a nude or sexual picture without permission. If this is the case, ask your child not to delete the messages because the police will need to see them.

If a sexual or nude image of your child has been shared, your child might feel guilty, ashamed, humiliated and distressed. For some young people, this situation can lead to depression or even suicidal thoughts. It’s likely to be very upsetting for you too. You and your child can get support by contacting eheadspace on 1800 650 890, Kids Helpline for teens on 1800 551 800, or Lifeline on 131 114.

Your child shares someone else’s sext: what to do

If your child has shared a sexually explicit image of someone else, it’s important to support your child and reassure them that together you’ll deal with it:

• Ask your child about the context of the sext: who sent the sext, and why did your child share it?
• Check on the content of the sext and who your child sent it to.
• Encourage your child to ask the person or people who received the sext to delete it. You can help your child do this.
• If your child uploaded the image to social media or websites, help your child to contact the websites to ask for the image to be removed.
• If your child sent the sext to someone at school, speak to your child’s school to ask for help to make sure the image isn’t shared.
• Help your child contact the person who sent the sext to tell them that it has been shared and that they’re sorry they shared it.

It’s also a good idea to encourage your child to ask themselves these questions:

• Did the person in this picture mean for it to be shared?
• If someone else sent the image, did that person have permission from the person who’s in it?
• How would I feel if somebody shared something like this with me in it?

It’s important for your child to know that sharing sexual images without a person’s consent is a type of sexual harassment or image-based abuse and your child can get into legal trouble.

If you think it’s a criminal matter, you can report it to the eSafety Commissioner or police. For example, it’s a crime if your child was forced into sharing one or more images, or if there’s an adult involved.